#3-9 Fitting In

I took a lecture called "Student guidance" last year and there was a lecture about bullying. The professor didn't talk about the character of the victim much, but talked about why people bully someone. There are two aspects. One is a revenge, and joking/prank is another. For the revenge, there are opinions like the victims is conceited,  a liar, move away from the other students and etc. For joking/prank, the victims are likely to be weak, slow in movement and etc. It was said that the weakness of the victims is the most powerful cause of bullying. In this case, the weakness means that the victims cannot defense themselves.

So, why the victims not fit in? There are lots of reasons for this and not only one reason, but in my opinion, one of the reasons is because the victim doesn't have similar interests to share with the other students. Even though I wasn't bullied or anything, I used to be the one who was kind of isolated from the other student. I don't know why that was happened. Maybe it happened because of environmental changing. I was playing dodge ball or tag with boys when I was in elementary school. Then, I went to girls' junior and junior high school. I didn't remember about much, but my mother told me that I usually didn't eat lunch at school and brought back the lunch box with full of food. I didn't like the lunch time. Students usually eat lunch with groups of people who are good friends. I talk to anyone, but I wasn't sure who to eat with, at that time. I was the weird one, I know. I don't know why I did that even now.
Also, I was interested in western musics or movies when I was in high school while lots of students were interested in and talked about TV dramas or some Japanese actors or actresses. In this case, I felt a bit lonely too.

However, I could survive because the other students didn't say to me that I was strange or something like that. Further more, I found someone else out of school who can talk about my hobbies and so on. 

In my opinion, ONE OF THE REASON why bullying widespread is the spread of cell phone. These days, even elementary school students have them. They can communicate through email even they don't meet and it cannot be seen by anyone if the parents didn't check. Therefore it can be difficult for teachers to control students' bullying problem. But, parents and teachers might be able to suggest an outlet for victims like another activities which one can enjoy or another community that one would fit in, although it could be difficult.